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We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
(National Competition on Worries)
Today, we have special guests whom we haven't seen for a while.
Kong Hyung Jin!
(Actor Kong Hyung Jin, the veteran)
Jeong Sang Hun!
(Actor Jeong Sang Hun, the popular star)
Chae Yeon and Ju Eun of Dia!
(Chae Yeon and Ju Eun of Dia)
(It's nice to meet you.)
Hyung Jin, it's been a long time.
- It's good to see you, Yeong Ja. - I missed you.
- I heard you filmed a new movie. - That's right.
Thank for mentioning that, Chan Woo.
- Thank you. - Thank you, Chan Woo.
- In fact, me, Sang Hun, - Yes.
and Im Chang Jung...
- The three of you? - Yes.
We filmed a movie named "Roman Holiday".
- But that's not why I'm here. - I know.
I'm here to promote our movie.
I see.
Please watch our movie.
By the way,
you all will be surprised when I tell you this.
I already knew it.
There's a touching story...
behind Yeong Ja and Sang Hun's friendship.
- We've never told this on TV. - Is this the first time?
This is the first time.
There was a comedy skit called "People in Geumchon".
- It was very famous. - I really enjoyed it.
It was amazingly popular.
The show hovered 40 percent of viewer ratings at that time.
- That's right. - It was very popular.
- What were you doing in 1997? - What year were you born?
- I think she was born in 1997. - I was born.
- I see. - You were born in 1997?
- It was her busiest time of life. - You were born then.
That's right.
I played a small part as a hoodlum.
I greeted Yeong Ja. As soon as she saw me,
she asked me if I was working with any talent agency.
- Do you remember that? - Yes, I do.
I said I was just a student and wasn't working with an agency.
Then, she asked if I would like to work with her.
(Would you like to work with me?)
- That's great. - I actually appeared on TV shows.
- She helped me make my debut. - That's right.
- In fact... - It's been 30 years.
- Thank you, Yeong Ja. - You're welcome.
- Thank you for saying that. - Thank you.
- Do you want to see the show again? - Pardon me?
- The old show. - Do we really have the video?
- Do we have it? - Do you really have the video?
Our staff barely managed to find the video.
- Let's watch it together. - Really?
- That's Hong Jin Kyung. - Hong Jin Kyung.
Look how young she was.
(This is Jin Kyung when she was 21.)
Is he Sang Hun?
Is that me?
(He's not sure.)
That's me.
(Finally!)
Sang Hun is there.
(This is Sang Hun when he was 20.)
(He's tilting his head being immersed in his role.)
What are you staring at?
That's Sang Hun.
Is this your first time seeing a hoodlum?
Yes.
(She's reacting like a robot.)
I asked you if you two are dating!
Yes, we are. Honey, teach them a lesson.
(I don't know her.)
(He's not even a man.)
That was funny.
(How does he feel now that he watched it again?)
- I was a lousy actor. - That's not true.
You did a good job.
You can't expect too much at your first time.
Chae Yeon, do you have any worries?
When I'm stressed out, I can't relieve it.
I don't know how to deal with it.
You said you drink alone sometimes at home...
- the last time you were here. - Yes, I did.
After I said that on this show, when I appeared on other shows...
People asked you about drinking?
Directors or other staff members asked...
if I drank alone the day before the show.
So I said no.
Drinking alone isn't good for the public image of an idol star.
- A can of beer isn't so bad. - Exactly.
She must not drink just a can of beer.
- She keeps a bottle beside her bed. - She's not you.
We have three stories.
Let's see what worries they have.
"Where Is His House?"
"The Rebellion of a 46-Year-Old".
"Please Give Up".
"The Rebellion of a 46-Year-Old".
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 50s.
How do you relieve your anger?
Don't people usually scream out loud...
or eat delicious food?
However, my younger brother who is 46 years old...
starves himself when he's angry.
Why would he do that?
Sometimes it lasts 3 days. Sometimes it lasts 1 week.
- What? - Until he feels better?
- He doesn't drink or eat. - He's 46 years old?
He's the same age as me.
Whenever he acts like that, my mom tells him,
"Come on. Eat something."
"I said I wouldn't eat anything!"
"You should eat. What are you going to do?"
"I said I don't want to eat!"
"Say one more thing, and I'll knock over the table!"
"Please eat a little."
(Dishes crashing)
- Why would he do that? - Gosh.
My 75-year-old mother lives alone with my brother,
and he makes her blood boil.
- That's absurd. - Exactly.
He's old enough to know better than that.
I don't know why he refuses to eat.
Please help me change my brother's mind.
(Please help me change my brother's mind.)
- That's a weird story. - It's surprising already, isn't it?
It's a serious problem.
- Is this a true story? - Exactly.
- He's the same age as us. - We're the same age.
"Leave me alone! I said I won't eat!"
- Let's find out more... - What's his problem?
when we meet his sister. Please come out.
(Who is the sister of a man who refuses to eat when angry?)
(Park Eun Hwa)
(Welcome to Hello.)
Please introduce yourself.
Hello.
I'm Park Eun Hwa. I'm from Bonghwa, North Gyeongsang Province.
Bonghwa.
(She came far from here.)
It doesn't make sense to me.
He's 46 years old.
Does he really starve himself when he's angry?
Yes, he does. He usually goes on without eating for 3 or 4 days.
When he's angrier, he starves himself for one week.
He doesn't eat anything.
- Yes. - Is your brother single?
- Yes, he's single. - He's 46 years old.
- Is he still single? - Yes, he is.
- He lives with my mom. - The two of them live alone?
He lives with my mom.
- I don't live with them. - I see.
My mom calls me sometimes because she's worried.
She says she's worried because he doesn't eat.
When I hear that, I'm upset too.
I can't be there with them to help them.
I'm upset.
- What's surprising is... - Yes.
She sent her story to us...
in 2010 too.
- What? - Sorry?
- In 2010, 7 years from now. - 7 years ago.
- We received her story. - That's when Hello started to air.
- It was 2010. - She sent us her story.
- The show started to air in 2010. - However, at that time,
she was worried about her brother being single and other things.
She decided not to come on the show.
- Even though 7 years passed, - He hasn't changed.
he didn't get married, and his problem got worse.
She became determined to come on the show.
My mom is very old now.
I'm worried about her...
as well as my brother.
When my brother starves himself,
- my mom can't eat... - She doesn't eat either?
because she's worried about him.
Eating well is very important for elderly people.
That's right. Sometimes when my brother starves himself,
- I even beg him. - Why?
I beg him to eat.
I'm afraid my mom might fall ill.
The way I see it, your brother might just bluff.
- He might eat something... - Secretly.
without letting you know.
You're not sure of it, are you?
I don't know that.
- Is there a storage in his room? - No, there isn't.
- How about instant cup noodles? - No.
- He might've dug a hole. - No, he didn't. However...
- He might've hidden energy bars. - In his closet,
- That's right. - he might have raw grains...
(He has raw grains in his closet?)
- It's dried grain powder. - Right.
Not raw grains.
I rather wish he ate secretly.
Even if he says he won't eat.
How was he when he was a child?
As a child, he refused to eat when he got angry too.
- He kept that habit until now? - Yes, he did.
- He made a bad habit. - In middle and high school...
That's why he holds out for a week.
There are some cases where people have their own reasons.
- That's true. - Let's meet with her brother.
Hello.
(Who is the brother who relieves his stress by starving himself?)
Do you really release your anger by starving yourself?
It depends on the level of stress.
I starve myself longer as the stress gets worse.
I don't eat anything.
- Gosh. - Usually, when people get angry,
they eat chocolates or drink alcohol.
Stress makes you eat a lot.
It's my old habit.
When I'm upset,
it's hard to swallow food.
- You're sensitive. - Don't you even drink water?
I drink less than usual.
Is it that you lose your appetite?
- He can't swallow food. - Don't you feel like eating at all?
When I starve myself because I'm upset,
I don't feel hungry.
- You must have a job. - I envy him.
Doesn't it cause trouble at work?
No, because I don't feel hungry.
I've never felt that I was falling ill.
When I had regular health check-ups,
the doctor never warned me about my condition.
What's the longest time you've gone on without eating?
Even my mother and sister don't know this.
(They're surprised.)
I'm not sure I should be telling this, but a month.
(Maximum a month)
- What? - What?
Can you survive?
You don't eat for 27 days.
He's a special expert.
I've seen people who were rescued from the mines.
- Right. - How was it?
Based on that experience,
I realized how amazing the human body is.
- In what sense? - If it goes over a week...
- or 10 days, - Yes.
the body makes you sleep to reduce the movement...
and to avoid exercising.
- What was the reason... - Does it make sense?
for you to stop eating for a month?
I'm curious.
Breaking up with my first love.
- That makes sense. - Breaking up with your love.
- That's understandable. - Wait a minute.
That sounds pretty cool.
- That makes him look cool. - Wait a minute.
- You're 46 years old now. - Yes.
When did you break up with your first love?
I was 27 years old at the time.
- 27. - That's my age.
That's a relief. When I heard you stopped eating for a month,
breaking up with your first love sounded pretty cool,
but if that happened last year when you're 46 right now,
that would've been sad.
That almost made me sad.
(What a relief.)
Are you aware your family is more stressed?
I thought this wasn't that big of a problem...
because it's common for people to get upset,
and when they're stressed, they have their own way of relieving stress.
Some people yell...
or they drink,
but for me, I don't speak.
- He doesn't talk. - In the past,
I used to avoid eating for a week, but now that I've gotten old,
I'm a lot softer,
- so I eat after 3 or 4 days. - 3 or 4 days.
That's even worse.
Just get upset and eat.
It doesn't affect anyone.
He may not affect other people,
- but he's affecting the family. - It affects the family.
Mom is so stressed...
because she can't eat either.
Mom can't hear very well.
- She speaks loud. - Yes. She speaks loud.
Also, he thinks the things she says to him out of concern is...
a scolding.
You don't know this because you're not married yet,
but when a child doesn't eat, it hurts the parents.
He'd know by that age even if he's not married.
Right. Have you ever thought you're hurting your mom?
(He doesn't understand.)
Since I was young,
I didn't eat when I'm upset or stressed.
Although Mom raised me since I was young,
and she's well aware that I have this habit,
but she keeps telling me that I should eat.
- That's what mothers do. - That pisses me off even more.
That pissed you off even more?
- You get more upset? - Because she's aware.
As I said earlier, she knows all this.
I don't know why she repeats this.
- Gosh. - Are you saying...
you don't understand how she feels?
(Sulky)
Before you broke up with your girlfriend,
even if your girlfriend said she's fine,
didn't you want to take care of her?
- Yes. - That's how your mom feels.
You're her son, and she wants you to eat healthy.
That's all. You can do that for her since she's old.
- Right. - She's old.
She tells me what she thinks is right.
She tells me to do this and do that,
but since the time has changed, it's not always right.
Another thing is that you say it's her opinion,
but it's a scolding.
When that piles up,
I get upset again.
I tell her to stop.
I don't think I'm young.
I'm not young anymore.
You're not young. You're old.
But she still treats me like a kid.
What other things she scolds you for besides eating?
The other thing is that since I'm still single,
- she tells me to get married. - That's understandable.
There are so many things. She tells me to get married.
She keeps saying things like I shouldn't be so picky about women.
I think you're upset because she told you not to be picky.
That's why you're angry.
There was a time when I lived with Mom, but she passed away.
I'd say, "Mom, try this. This is good."
"Mom, try this."
One time she got so upset...
after I said it three or four times.
"I'll eat it myself. Leave me alone."
- I still remember it. - Yes.
"I have hands too."
"I'll eat it myself."
- That's how it's supposed to be. - This is normal.
Right. This is normal.
- Mom, this is good. Try it. - Eat it.
I think this is what you should do.
I have a question.
If you get married, and you have a fight with your wife,
are you going to avoid eating?
Mom and wife are different,
so it'd be better for my wife if I get upset...
since she doesn't need to cook.
(We hope you find a good partner.)
- In your story, - He's driving me crazy.
you said you flip the dinner table Mom prepared for you.
That's so rude.
- That's wayward. - That's wayward.
Right.
There were a few times when I got off work late at night.
I was pretty tired, and I wanted to sleep.
Sometimes I have no choice but to skip breakfast,
but Mom prepares me breakfast no matter what.
Then I say I'm in a rush, and I'll eat outside,
but she keeps preparing breakfast again and again.
That didn't happen just few times.
Think about it. It happened like 30 times.
I really wanted her to stop, so one time I made up my mind.
I told her I'll flip the table if she prepared breakfast again.
I told her not to prepare breakfast,
but she did,
so I thought she doesn't take me seriously.
She doesn't take what I say seriously.
I thought I had to show her, so I flipped the table.
(He's not even in adolescence.)
- Still, that's not understandable. - But still...
That's just so rude.
But think about it think way.
- Even if you eat it just a bit, - Right.
it won't take more than a minute or two.
Why didn't you just eat little bit and say you have to go?
You could do that.
It's not hard to eat 2 or 3 spoonfuls.
That's what I thought at first,
but when that piles up, it upsets me.
As I said before, if I get upset...
But that's filial duty.
If you eat 2 or 3 spoonfuls before you leave, it'll make Mom happy.
That's what he says,
but once he leaves home, he wouldn't feel so comfortable.
How did you feel on the day you flipped the table?
- He probably felt uneasy. - Were you sorry?
Honestly, I wasn't sorry.
- At the moment? - When I left home...
or even now, I'm not sorry.
At the time, I thought I did a good job.
After I did that, Mom stopped preparing breakfast.
I thought I should've done it earlier.
(I should've done it earlier.)
(Their blood pressure is rising.)
(He should be mature.)
Since she stopped preparing breakfast after that,
- it probably hurt his mom so much. - Right.
That's why she stopped preparing breakfast for him.
Let's talk to his mom now.
Hello, ma'am.
- Hello. - Hello.
- She's cute. - Does your son really...
refuse to eat when he's upset?
No, he doesn't eat.
I still cook just in case.
I don't prepare the table, but I still cook.
I'd buy fruits and stuff for him,
but he doesn't eat when he's angry.
He doesn't eat at all.
It hurts me so much when he doesn't eat.
- My heart cries when it happens. - Right.
He doesn't relieve his angry by talking...
but keeps it inside him.
- It's very hard. - It hurts her.
I don't express it, but it hurts me.
You know when your son flipped the breakfast table,
- Yes. - how did you feel?
I think that's my fault.
(It's my fault.)
- Oh, my. - I decided not to do it.
- All parents feel the same. - Right, ma'am.
When you look at old people,
all they care about is feeding their children.
What time do you have to wake up to prepare breakfast?
I wake up at 5am.
You wake up at 5am to prepare breakfast.
- At 5am? - At 5am. Yes.
- At 5am. - By the way, ma'am,
- do you think... - I'm used to getting up at 5am.
- At 5am. - At 5am.
Do you think you scold your son a lot?
I don't think I scold my son a lot,
but he doesn't want to listen to same thing twice.
But I repeat without realizing it.
- Right. Since you can't hear well. - I repeat.
I can't listen to my mom scolding me even if I want to.
- I know. - After that, I feel sorry for him.
You know that your mom suffers when you don't eat,
so are you using that as your weapon?
Yes. I intend to do that.
(She's shocked.)
- He's doing that on purpose. - You shouldn't do that.
As I live with Mom,
I tried to talk to her over to change her...
and to change her habit.
If talking could have changed Mom,
I would've never refused to eat.
She doesn't show any changes until I go extreme.
Until I refuse to eat.
Then what is it that you think...
- she should change? - Right.
I just told you.
- Scolding? - Yes.
(Scolding)
I don't want her to repeat the same thing over and over again.
All moms do that.
- We're all very shocked... - Yes.
because you said your mom needs to change,
- but it would only make sense... - That's what I mean.
if your mom has a habit of stealing...
or something that everyone would agree she must change.
But because she tells you to get married?
Or that she prepares you breakfast?
- Why does she need to change that? - All moms do those things.
I'm shocked by the fact that you think this way.
As you know, I'm still not married, and I'm getting old.
My mom stresses me out about getting married, so I wanted to empathize.
I tried to teach my mom a lesson when she was crazy about dancing.
- That needed to change. - I told my dad on her.
But except for cases like that...
I mean, how dare a son do that to his mother?
- She was obsessed with dancing. - Unless she joins...
- a pyramid scheme. - Your dad might have been worse.
Don't even get me started. Back then,
my mom used to give fish to those men for free.
(Thinking about that makes me mad.)
It got my dad so angry.
You sound very angry and frustrated. Why don't you live alone?
Actually, my mother and I...
used to live together in Daegu,
but she started having health problems.
Her health worsened significantly about 10 years ago.
One day, I asked her if there's anything she wants to do,
and she said that she wants to live somewhere with clean air.
So I got a house built outside of the city...
and had her move there.
I thought I'd feel so free if I lived alone,
but I couldn't sleep because I couldn't stop worrying about her,
knowing that my elder mother was all alone.
Hence, I ended up selling the house in the city...
and moving to the country to live with her.
That's when I started living with her again.
- Right. - You obviously...
- You're such a good son. - care about her a lot.
- His words are inconsistent. - You're a dutiful son.
Look. Gosh, he frustrates me so much.
We already told you.
As children ourselves, we know how you feel.
We also know that you're a kind-hearted, upright person,
but most parents are like that. Even those who are...
- 56 or 66 years old are treated... - That's right.
- like kids by their parents. - They're told to be careful.
- Exactly. - That's how parents feel.
And even if their parents nag them, most people do not choose...
to starve themselves just to give their parents a hard time.
Your sister told us that your mother has even...
begged you like this saying that she's sorry.
How did you feel when you saw that? Didn't your heart ache?
My heart did break when I saw that,
but it has happened a number of times,
so I don't even feel that way anymore.
If I can see that she's reflecting on what she did wrong...
(His problem is that she never seems self-reproachful.)
Then I won't do that.
But she keeps doing the same thing over and over...
- So what you're trying to say is... - Why does she need to do that?
You're treating your mother as if she's your child.
- That's right. - "Why are you begging again?"
Do you think that makes sense?
- What's there to reflect on? - The funny thing here is...
Tell us honestly. You must've found living alone very inconvenient.
- Yes, I did. - It must've been inconvenient.
I'm sure you were worried about her, but I bet it was inconvenient.
You're already too used to the comfort.
I know that she loves me.
I'm well aware of that, of course.
But I think the way she loves me is wrong.
- Why do you think that? - What does that even mean?
- Well... - How can her way be wrong?
I'm sure you've heard this.
- When we get old, - This is killing me.
- we become like kids. - Nothing is getting through to him.
- You get annoyed with your mom... - I rarely get...
- because she says the same things. - this worked up.
But everyone knows this.
We've all done this as kids. "Mom, what's that bird?" "A sparrow."
"Mom, what's that bird called?" "Sparrow."
You did that thousands of times, but she was patient through it all.
- That's right. - Now, she says the same things...
over and over again even though she's aware that she's doing it.
- She's doing what you used to do. - He should understand it.
You should think that she's getting old and try to understand her.
- Yes, absolutely. - Tae Joon, you're doing awesome!
I must say...
- Tae Joon is so right. - I...
(He has nothing to say.)
Has he always been coddled since he was little?
- He's the youngest child. - 100 percent.
- It must've been the case. - There are...
three of us.
- I have an older brother and him. - She has an older brother too.
He's six years younger than me.
- He was the apple of my mom's eye. - He must've been.
- She always talked about him. - I can imagine.
If we're eating, she'd be like, "Byung Ho loves this dish."
- And she'd put it in front of him. - Right.
It's partially her fault because she spoiled him.
- Yes, exactly. - Yes, she did.
That's exactly why he's used to whining at his mother.
- Totally. - That's why he's used...
to yelling at her.
- She always let him win. - That's right.
I'll give you a what-if scenario. As you know, your mother...
isn't young anymore.
If she develops an illness like Alzheimer's disease...
and keeps on saying the same things because of her condition...
When you think about something like that happening to her,
- how do you feel? - I wanted to ask the same question.
I really want to know.
- If she repeats the same things... - Over and over again.
If it's caused by an illness,
I'll definitely be able to understand it.
- I knew he'd say that. - Right, but what's "illness"?
Does a doctor at a big hospital have to diagnose her...
with something for you to think that is the case?
- What if it's not that drastic? - Exactly.
What if you just sense that she's acting a bit differently?
Won't it be easier to understand her if you think that way?
(Remember that she's getting old.)
As soon as I heard you saying that,
I realized that I've never thought about that.
- Right? - I knew it.
- I've never even imagined it. - Right.
I just tried to picture it for a few seconds while you were talking,
- It's heartbreaking. - and my mind went blank.
- You wouldn't know what to do. - Right.
Both you and I are single.
- When you're alone... - Are you proposing to him?
That's not a bad idea.
- Do it! - That wouldn't be bad.
We should grab a drink together. Let's go out for drinks soon.
Anyway, my mom is like that too.
I live with my mom to take care of her,
but she doesn't think that way.
- She thinks she is... - She thinks she looks after you.
Thinking that she's doing...
- something for me... - I get that.
- keeps her healthy. - And...
- That's so true. - My mom is back from Cheonan now.
She and I obviously have different taste in clothes.
Today, I'm wearing a T-shirt I like and pants that my mom likes.
This is so big now. I used to wear it when my waist measured 111cm.
But I had to wear it because my mom picked it out for me.
- Today? - Yes, today.
- Your mom styled our outfit. - This is ridiculous.
- You're such a good daughter. - Look at how hideous this looks.
Look at this. Seriously.
(Let's take a break and laugh a little.)
- I'm sure those around him... - Yes.
can be more objective about the issue. His acquaintance is here.
Hello, hello.
How do you know each other?
- We go to the same church. - I see.
- Who's older? - Me.
- I'm sorry. - As you can see...
Did you know about him not eating when he gets angry?
Once, I ended up having a meal at his place.
His mother is a very good cook.
She probably thought it was a good chance to make him eat.
She used me as an excuse and kept telling him to eat this and that.
I was grateful, of course.
She kept telling me to eat.
- But... - Right, you love to eat anyway.
But Byung Ho was like, "Gosh, I can't eat. I can't digest."
Then he left.
- It left me in an awkward position. - It must've been uncomfortable.
I thought, "Shall I stop eating too?"
- You must've wanted to eat more. - "There's a lot of food left."
"It's delicious."
But he kept on starving himself even the next day.
(He didn't eat for days.)
He didn't even eat dinner.
He gets mad over little things and starves himself.
- I can't really understand him. - My goodness.
You did tell us that it's different in every situation.
On average, how long does it take for your anger to go away?
- Now, it takes about 3 to 4 days. - 3 to 4 days.
- 3 to 4 days? - It used to take up to a week.
- Before that, up to a month. - It used to take about a week.
- Staying angry isn't easy. - Let's say that your mother...
hasn't eaten anything for a week because she's angry.
- Yes. - What will you do?
How will you feel?
And she just says that it's her way. She's not even talking to you.
- My gosh, that's really... - He has never thought about it.
This is the first time he thought about it.
I'm... I don't know what to say.
- Right? - Put yourself in her shoes.
When you think about your youngest son,
what worries you the most?
I'd say it's his temper.
I want him to learn how to let things go quickly.
I want him to snap out of it fast and stop starving himself.
- I want to do many things for him. - Right.
- It's because you had him late. - Yes.
Even so, I've been a handful. But it's because I love him.
When I talk to him out of love,
I forget that he doesn't like me repeating things and do it again.
- Right, we know why you do it. - Gosh.
- I regret it so much. - My goodness.
I feel so bad.
- Ma'am. - I did it with good intentions.
- Ma'am. - Of course, we know.
- Thank you for having us here. - We're glad you're here.
- We're happy that you're here. - Yes.
(We're so glad you're here.)
Ma'am.
Ma'am, forgetting isn't a bad thing. Please forget such things.
Trying too hard not to forget might stress you out more.
Just forget about them. It's okay.
- It's really okay. - We don't even remember yesterday.
- That's right. - My older children...
were so loving. They used to lie down with me like this.
- Sir. - When things were good...
- It's only the two of you at home. - Yes.
Please try to talk with your mother as often as you can.
- It looks like she loves to chat, - Exactly.
- and she's articulate. - She's soft-spoken,
- She's witty. - but she's witty.
But you never talk to her.
When we asked him to put himself in her shoes,
- he felt so guilty and heartbroken. - Right.
Frankly, I think that...
you can certainly change those things.
Please tell your brother how you want him to change.
I want you to know that Mom won't change at her age now.
- Definitely. - Right?
When you don't eat, Mom's heart breaks.
She gets so distressed.
I'd like him to find a different way to relieve stress.
Sang Hun, do you think it's a worry or not?
Well, I believe...
that he can be flexible enough about the issue...
and find a solution himself, so I don't think it's a worry.
- I also don't think it's a worry. - You don't?
I don't think it's a problem.
I hope he gets a girlfriend soon.
Then he'll be able to get out of this situation.
- I'm sure it'll be a measure... - Right.
- for the son to understand. - Yes.
- I miss Mom's food. - I don't think it's a worry.
I think they can talk it over.
Please vote.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Stop.
Why don't you say something to your sister?
I hope this doesn't turn out to be a lie.
I'll try my best.
(I'll try to fix it.)
- To your mom as well. - Say something to your mom.
Mom. Mom.
I'll gain weight.
(Mom, I'll gain weight.)
- Good. - They have a lot to work on.
- Give her a peck. - Yes.
I said you do it to her.
- You do it. - Why do you make your mom do it?
- It's common. - What?
This is normal. When I get home from work,
she always gives me a peck.
- Grab her hand. - You should do it from now on.
She's done a lot for you. Do it for her once.
What is it, ma'am?
But the thing is...
Now she's talking.
Since he is not married and lives with me,
I love him so much.
Why are you telling me about your son?
She only looks at you when she talks.
- She kept looking at you. - She has a good sense.
Yes.
I wonder how many votes he got. Please show the result.
(The result)
(The last digit is 4.)
He hates his mom's nagging.
- 54 votes. - 54 votes.
Good job.
The title is "Please Give Up".
Hello. I'm Um Yeh Eun in grade 5 living every day acting.
"Yeh Eun, did you practice? Show me now."
"Why are you doing this to me? I didn't do anything."
- "Again." - "Why are you doing this to me?"
"Again! That's not how you say it."
"Did you practice? That's not good enough to be an actress."
I practice acting every day with my dad.
But I don't want to be an actress at all.
That must be so stressful.
"You must become an actress. That's your duty."
"Sit up straight, Yeh Eun."
"You should always sit up straight since you'll be an actress."
I should sit up straight.
"What's that face?"
"I told you not to smile like that."
"Don't show your teeth. Only move the corner of your lips."
"Now, smile again."
My dad trained me since I was eight.
"Daddy's got a new car. Ta-da."
"It's the van that celebrities drive."
(The van that celebrities drive)
"We can't just get any car since it's for my future star."
He even bought a car.
What's wrong with my dad?
I really don't want to be an actress.
Please persuade my dad.
(Please persuade my dad.)
- Let's hear from her. - Yes.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried because of her dad?)
(Um Yeh Eun)
Hello
- Please introduce yourself. - Yes.
Hello. I'm worried because of my dad. I'm 10...
I'm five...
Are you lying about your age already?
Because she'll become a celebrity.
I'm a fifth grader, Um Yeh Eun.
- Yes. - Good job.
(She's pretty.)
- I heard you're learning acting. - Yes.
- Have you ever been on TV? - Really?
Yes, but I only had extra roles,
so you can't really see me.
I was on "My Dear Cat",
- "Euni", "Ugly Alert" and... - What?
I was on "Ugly Alert".
(She smiles.)
She's like, "So what?"
Did you see him when you shot "Ugly Alert"?
- Didn't you see me? - No.
(No way.)
- You didn't? - No.
- He was the protagonist. - Yes.
- He was the protagonist. - I'll try harder.
(Let's try harder, Tae Joon.)
Why do you hate becoming an actress that you'd even come here?
You're even on TV.
Dad made me do it when I was seven.
My dad actually wanted to become an actor.
- Your dad did. - Your dad did.
My dad wants me to be an actress for him.
Does your dad force you to act?
- Does he? - Yes.
He told me to become an actress.
I see your dad sitting in front of us.
- He's very unusual. - He's very special.
He's very unusual.
He looks like young Seol Woon Do.
You've been acting for five years.
Why do you want to stop now?
Is there a reason?
- Because Dad forced me. - Okay.
I went to Gangnam from Songdo to learn acting for three years.
- My goodness. - She's lucky there's a highway.
How old were you at the time?
- For 3 years. - Since I was 8.
- Then what happened? - I learned acting,
- but I was so tired from it. - I see.
That's one reason.
He said swimming and piano will help me in the future.
- Help you when you act? - Yes, so he made me learn that.
Right now, Dad teaches me how to act.
Is your dad a bad actor?
Yes.
(Chan Woo got it.)
He teaches me.
He'd give me a very long script and tell me to memorize it.
If I can't memorize it, he'd get mad.
He makes me try emotional acting.
If I don't memorize it, he'd get mad.
When he's busy, he'd make me send him a video...
to check my acting.
- Do you record it and send him? - Yes.
He has a pretty strict plan.
If I don't send him the video, I'd be in trouble.
(She'd be in trouble if she's not good.)
When I was young, there was a time...
- when I wanted to quit. - I see.
So I told my parents I want to quit.
When I told them, they said I can quit at any time.
- Have you ever told your parents... - Right.
that you want to quit and play with your friends?
I have, but it doesn't work on them.
- It doesn't? - Dad said...
everything I've done so far would go to waste.
He was so angry that I pretend like I do want to do it now.
(She must've been very scared.)
What is it that you really want to do...
besides becoming an actress?
- What you really want to do. - An elementary school teacher.
- What? - An elementary school teacher.
- That's good. - That's not bad.
Are you doing well at school?
No.
Why do you want to be an elementary school teacher?
My grade 5 teacher sang while playing the piano.
That made me want to become a teacher.
- The way she talks is so cute. - You liked her singing.
The back of her head is so round.
It's so round.
- It's like an egg. - But if you don't want to act,
- you will give up eventually. - Let's hear from her dad.
Hello. Nice to meet you.
Hello.
(Who is the dad forcing his daughter to be an actress?)
- Look at him. - I was very shocked to hear it.
Did you really buy the van?
Yes. I bought a van.
It's not the big one the celebrities drive.
But you know the ones that low and middle priced celebrities drive.
- Low and middle priced celebrities? - Low and middle priced celebrities?
- What about me? - That's not us.
Something small.
I guess we're divided into low and high prices.
Oh, that one.
- Is it that one? - That's the one I drive!
Am I low and middle priced?
She's low and middle priced.
I can't believe it.
I drive something cheaper than that.
I'm a loser.
We send cars to cast members from the broadcasting station.
We told them we'll send the car, but he rejected the offer...
- and drove here by himself. - Really?
- He drove the festival van. - Yes. The festival van.
(A van is a must for an actress.)
Were you not aware that she hates it so much...
that she even sent us her story?
I didn't know.
- You didn't? - No.
She likes acting.
She doesn't know what she wants since she's young.
She just wants to play with her friends.
That's what I think.
- Do you think she likes it? - She loves it.
She's good.
Did you wear the bow tie on purpose?
- I was curious. - This is what I usually wear.
- That's usual? - Yes.
- He's very stylish. - He is.
His appearance is very attractive as well.
It's understandable that he dreamed of becoming an actor in the past.
- By the way, - He likes it.
- Good. Good. - Seriously,
- he's not tacky. - Please stand up.
He's well dressed.
- Oh, my. - I see.
- He's well dressed. - For some reason,
I feel like he's going to do this and start singing.
- I know. - I feel like he's going to sing.
Yeh Eun, your dad says you enjoy acting.
- You said you like it. - Actually...
when Dad was angry, I was very scared,
so I lied to him that I like acting again.
- I see. - You lied.
- You lied. - He must be shocked.
The fact that he believed her means she's a good actor.
You're right.
How angry were you that she even lied?
- She lied because she was scared. - How angry were you?
I...
I panicked because Yeh Eun suddenly said...
she doesn't like acting,
so I yelled at her without realizing.
I also had a fight with my wife.
My voice got louder since I was having a fight,
and I think that's what scared Yeh Eun.
(She doesn't like acting but pretended to enjoy it.)
I'm sorry, but how old are you?
- I'm young. - I mean her dad.
I'm 39.
- 39? - Yes.
- He looks young for his age. - He looks pretty young.
- He looks very young for his age. - Yes.
I personally think you're not that old.
It's not too late for you to start now.
- You could audition. - Try auditioning.
I did.
- He did. - Did you?
Are you still doing it?
How did it go?
- I tried with my wife in the past, - Yes.
but it never worked out for me.
- Do you still try? - Not anymore.
- Not anymore. - I have three kids.
- I have to earn money. - Yes.
You know what it's like since you tried it yourself.
- You can't force her to do it. - Right.
She should plan her own future, but why would you force her?
- I don't understand. - We are curious about your reason.
Yeh Eun can act.
We understood that part.
- When she was little... - Is that subjective or objective?
- Go ahead. - When she was little,
she began to learn how to act. She danced and sang at home,
but she was so shy...
that she couldn't do them when I asked her to.
That's how I enrolled her at an acting academy.
That's how she started.
The academy has a test once a year.
Among 300 or 400 students,
Yeh Eun placed first.
She placed first.
We get it.
She is really good at it,
but she doesn't like it.
- Then she shouldn't do it. - That's right.
She is too young...
to understand what is good for her.
She lacks in judgment.
- She knows what she likes. - You can't force her.
I have a question for Yeh Eun.
Were you happy when you took first place?
- I am sure she was. - I wasn't happy.
- I wasn't happy. - Why not?
I was forced to do something I don't want to do.
That's why I wasn't happy.
(That's why I wasn't happy.)
Can't you support her...
when she wants to go into acting?
- That's right. - Why does it have to start now?
Listen to me.
Yeh Eun...
can act very well.
- We understood that part. - Stop telling us the same thing.
She hates it.
Do you hate it?
(Laughing)
He is a funny man.
Answer his question. Let's see what he says.
- I hate it. - She says she hates it.
(His eyes shift.)
She says she hates it. Would you respect her opinion?
No.
Why do you think she has to start out young?
It's less competitive...
to become a child actor.
That's why I made her start out young.
Moreover, she used to be very shy.
Going to the academy made her more outgoing.
Now that she is more outgoing, she can stop going to the academy.
She is good at acting.
For goodness' sake.
Think about it.
How many successful actors do you know...
started out as child actors?
- Kim Hye Soo. - Kim Hye Soo.
How many do you know?
Don't copy her answer. Why would you copy her answer?
There are less than five actors like that...
when you think about it.
There are a lot of actors...
who didn't start out as a child actor.
Did you know that Yeh Eun's dream is to become a teacher?
I didn't know.
You didn't even ask.
You didn't even ask. You weren't curious about her dream.
(He didn't know about his daughter's dream.)
She is already attending an acting academy.
Why do you make her...
- practice at home? - It's a burden for her.
Attending an acting academy isn't enough.
That's why I give her lessons.
Wait a minute. I have a suggestion.
Sir, try acting.
- Give us your best performance. - Act as her partner.
(We are curious about your acting skills.)
He is a professor in acting.
Anything is fine. Give us a free performance.
- He must be nervous. - A performance for an audition.
Yeh Eun, do you want to give it a try?
No, we are asking you to do it.
I can't do it. I only teach.
How can you teach her how to act when you can't?
You went to auditions, right?
(Hyung Jin doesn't back down.)
Give us the performance for an audition.
It was 20 years ago.
- You are shy, right? - He is too shy to do it.
- I am old. - In that case,
could you give us a short performance?
You can choose the theme and the length.
- Okay. - Give it a try.
- Can it be anything? - Yes.
(Her eyes change.)
What is your problem?
Are you so upset that I received this lousy doll?
What have you done for me?
- Is that enough? - Yes.
- She is good. - She is good.
- My goodness. - What is wrong?
What is wrong with her performance?
She yelled, "What is your problem?"
I thought she was yelling at her dad.
What is wrong with her performance?
- She has talent. - I asked,
what do you think is wrong with her performance?
Give her feedback.
You did a good job.
What was that?
(Excuse me?)
Does he usually tell you that you did a good job?
- No. - What?
- He doesn't. - No. He has a lot of criticism.
- He has a lot of criticism. - No wonder she doesn't want to act.
You should give her compliments.
What do you criticize her for?
While she is good at everything else,
she is lacking when it comes to crying.
Do you know why she can't cry well?
You don't know, do you?
Does she lack the emotions?
- No. - That's not it.
That's because she doesn't want to do it.
When we asked you to act, you were like,
"No, thanks. It has been 20 years."
When you ask her to cry, she will be like, "No, thanks."
It's the same thing.
(Even though she is young, she knows what she doesn't like.)
It's the same thing.
Of course she doesn't want to do it.
Yeh Eun, when you cry,
what do you think about?
I think about sad situations, but tears won't come.
What are some sad situations you think about?
I think about my mom dying.
- Why would you do this to her? - I must have had that thought...
- 3,000 times. - Why would you do that?
I must have had that thought 3,000 times.
It's hard...
to think up sad situations at her age.
It's not like she has experienced a breakup or anything.
Her mother dying is the only situation she can imagine.
I have a question for Yeh Eun.
Would you like acting better...
if your dad compliments you instead of criticizing you?
- No. - She doesn't want to do it.
She really doesn't want to do it.
The door to her heart has closed on this matter.
We should talk to her mother, who has died multiple times.
That's right.
Let's talk to her.
Hello, it's nice to meet you.
Hello.
Did you know about your daughter's suffering?
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I didn't know she hated acting so much.
Doesn't she talk to you?
- We talk a lot like friends. - Of course.
She didn't tell you about this.
If I tell Mom, she will tell Dad.
Then Dad will scold me.
That's why I didn't tell her.
It's a pain to her.
If you cry, your parents fight.
Yes.
- It's a vicious circle. - Yes.
Who knew that you don't want to act?
- Your friends? - Me...
and the scriptwriters of Hello.
(It's like the national secret.)
The scriptwriters of Hello.
Why didn't you tell your friends?
I didn't want to talk to my friends about acting.
- I see. - They wouldn't understand.
Was it liberating to tell the scriptwriters?
- Yes. - Yeh Eun,
you might want to meet your friends after school.
You might hate going to the academy because of that.
My friends and I had planned to hang out together,
but my dad suddenly told me that I have to go to an audition.
Because of that, I couldn't hang out with my friends.
My friends were so upset that they called me a traitor.
These small things can make her an outcast at school.
Children are sensitive.
Why don't you talk to your husband about it?
I have talked to him many times.
- You have talked to your husband. - That's right.
We fight every time. I can't get through to him.
(Yeh Eun's mom has given up.)
He convinced me that she will become a celebrity.
How do you feel?
Do you want your daughter to be a celebrity?
If she wants to do it, I can support her.
If she wants to be a teacher, I am fine with that.
I want her to follow her dream.
That's right. Yeh Eun's mom has the right idea.
You must have been stressed out.
That's right. One time,
he took Yeh Eun into a room for an acting practice.
He said he wants her to practice crying.
However, he was only scolding her.
Yeh Eun cried because her dad is pressing her.
Enraged, I was listening outside.
When Yeh Eun was crying, he went...
(What did he say to her?)
"That's it."
- "That's how you cry." - Her daughter was crying.
"That's how you cry. That's perfect."
- Why is he so obsessed? - Sir.
Even actors get exhausted after crying on the set.
Yeh Eun is only 12 years old.
Don't you think it can be exhausting for her?
I wanted her to focus and learn...
in a short period of time.
Even though she was crying because she is exhausted,
you said, "That's how you act."
Why do you ignore your wife's opinion?
She has talent. That's why I make her act.
It's the right thing to do as a parent.
It is right in principle.
It seems like...
Yeh Eun's dad enjoys standing out.
He might do it for the satisfaction of bragging about his daughter,
not her happiness.
Don't you get stressed out about that aspect?
My husband likes to stand out.
To be honest, I hate it.
When he wears a bow tie, I don't want to be seen with him.
This is how he dresses for an amusement park.
(They would think he is a part of the parade.)
He holds a clutch.
Since he wanted to be a celebrity, he likes being on TV.
He tells Yeh Eun to live the same way. It's stressful.
He is forcing his daughter...
- to realize his dream. - That's bad.
That's really bad.
(That's not how you realize your dream.)
Yeh Eun doesn't want to act.
- She has two siblings. - Yes.
Is any one of them interested in acting?
I see talent in the second child.
- The second child. - Yes.
We didn't ask about your ambition. Is the child interested in acting?
You want your 1st and 2nd children to be celebrities.
I am thinking about doing the same for the third child.
(He is ambitious.)
Does he ever do this?
When your relatives or others visit,
- does he tell you to act? - I bet he does.
- Yes, he does. - I hate it the most.
Seriously.
It's like asking a comedian to tell a joke.
He suddenly asks me to act in front of the others.
I was at my dad's friend's house.
My dad said, "Yeh Eun, act."
- I was taken aback. - It's embarrassing.
If I don't do it, Dad scolds me.
It's traumatizing.
You should have made up a line.
"Stop. Stop it already!"
(Thank you for watching.)
That's a good idea.
Pull out your hair as you do it.
How does your dad scold you?
"Hurry up and deliver the lines."
"Make your facial expression more serious."
Who were there?
Two of my dad's friends, their families,
- and children around my age. - Children around your age?
You must have hated it.
Why do you make her act in front of the others?
Do you want to brag?
- No. - Then why do you do it?
- You want to give her courage. - You need courage to act well.
When she goes to an audition,
I want her to perform confidently.
That's why I make her act at cafes and restaurants.
- You make her act there... - Yes.
- in front of the strangers. - I tell her to do it.
How do you act at cafes and restaurants?
How can anyone act at a restaurant?
When we go to a restaurant, he makes me...
perform getting angry.
If I don't do it, he scolds me.
So I have to do it.
- There are other people. - That's wrong.
Don't you think it's too much for Yeh Eun?
You make her perform in front of strangers.
She does it well.
- You scold her. - She does it out of fear.
- She does it out of fear. - She acts well at cafes.
- She does it out of fear. - We can't reason with him.
At cafes and restaurants, she does an exceptional job.
- That's because you scold her. - We get that she is talented.
We get that she is talented. We watched her performance earlier.
However, she is upset about it.
- She hates it. - I didn't know.
When people ask actors to cry out of the blue,
they don't cry.
They don't act. Do you know why?
- It's embarrassing. - That's right.
Why does she need to act...
- at a cafe? It's embarrassing. - Let me explain.
I want Yeh Eun to think of it as karma and follow.
- How would she know what karma is? - What are you talking about?
- Why would you ask that of her? - Goodness.
I want to throw him.
You can't force that on a child.
She needs to decide for herself.
He is flustered, too.
He thought Yeh Eun liked to act.
She also has talent. He didn't know how much she hates it.
You are shocked, right?
- Yes. - He didn't attempt to find out...
- what she likes. - Hold on.
- This is child abuse. - Tae Joon, tell him...
how much you hated it in middle school.
I didn't care either way in childhood,
but my mom gave me rewards instead of forcing me.
She would get me the newest model of a cell phone.
When you entered middle school, you hated your past.
- I hated it. - He hated it a lot.
He fought everyone who said,
- "Wasn't he in "Magic Kid Masuri"?" - I really did.
He fought everyone who recognized him.
I really did that.
When I entered the middle school,
everyone came to see me.
- Of course. - Did you quit acting then?
- Yes, I did. - He quit.
What would you do if your daughter enters puberty...
- and refuses to act? - She might run away from home.
- That would be your fault. - I would feel betrayed...
if she suddenly stops listening to me.
- You would feel betrayed? - That's right.
Shouldn't you think you brought that result..
- upon yourself? - It will be a disaster.
(I hate acting.)
Was there another thing that upset you?
Yes, there was. One time, I had an audition.
When I performed,
the judge said that I am terrible.
Did your dad say that?
- No, the judge did. - The judge said that.
I wanted to tell Dad because it made me upset,
but I thought he would scold me more.
Even though I wanted to lean on him, I couldn't.
Yeh Eun is a child who needs love from her dad.
You scold her and force her to do something she hates.
Yeh Eun, I am curious about something.
Does he make you study, too?
No, he doesn't. He says I don't need to study.
He says I only need to focus on acting.
- What? - You need to study...
- He does? - to become a good actor.
- What does he say? - He says...
I can study later in life.
He says I should study acting first.
- He says you don't need to study. - No.
Why do make her miss her classes?
Why do you think her studies aren't important?
They are important,
but auditions don't come...
when she wants them to come.
If an audition comes up,
she needs to go.
She makes it to the final round.
- That's not what's important. - How frustrating!
- She doesn't like it. - There is something...
you don't even realize.
You don't seem like Yeh Eun's dad.
He is like a manager.
- He is like a trainer. - She can't even lean on you.
To be frank,
- you seem like a manager. - On bad terms.
- An actress and a manager. - They don't even get along.
You only look at her as a merchandise.
My heart aches to see her study your reaction even now.
Ma'am, is there anything else Yeh Eun doesn't like?
"Since Yeh Eun will be a star,"
"she needs to sit up straight at all times."
- He trains her. - He says that every minute...
when he himself sits like this.
He has a terrible posture.
"A woman's skin and lips should be moist."
He always makes her lips look like she ate fried food.
Fried food!
"Your lips shouldn't be dry. Did you apply lip gloss?"
- "Sit up straight." - "Sit up straight."
"Apply lip gloss. When you take a selfie,"
"open your eyes wide." Also... What do you call it?
- A diet? - Yes.
- A diet. - A diet? She is a child.
She is too young for a diet.
- What does he do? - I weigh 37kg.
It's a normal weight,
- but he says I need to lose weight. - He says that.
How much does he say you need to lose?
I am not sure, but he says I need to lose weight.
It stresses me out.
You have a habit of licking your lips.
- Yes. - She does that...
- when she is nervous. - She seems nervous.
Did you really ask your daughter to go on a diet?
She has fat on her stomach.
- Sir. - For goodness' sake.
Of course she has fat on her stomach.
We think she looks fine.
Even Chae Yeon weighed 60kg...
when she was 12 years old. She just told me.
I did grow up fast.
When I was 12 years old, my height was 159cm or 160cm.
- You were tall. - My weight was 60kg.
I was fat.
She will grow into a pretty woman.
She is at the age to eat a lot and grow taller.
- What's wrong with you? - It's not a severe diet.
I just ask her to stop eating so much rice and sweets.
(I want to eat without worrying.)
I think you are confusing an actor...
with a pianist or athletes.
- That's right. - If a child shows...
incredible talent in those fields,
you might force them to practice.
However, this is a completely different field.
Let's say you want her to be a golfer like Park Se Ri.
Even if she has the talent, teaching her the wrong forms...
- without knowing anything... - That's right.
will bring bad results.
Yeh Eun had kept her feelings a secret...
since she is scared of her dad and her parents fighting.
For the first time, Yeh Eun revealed her thoughts.
"I don't like acting. I never liked it."
Do you intend to make her act even though she told you that?
- You know... - Think about it.
- Tell us your answer. - Tell us your answer.
Will you make her continue acting? Yes or no?
She could take a short break,
but if there is a character that suits Yeh Eun,
I want her to take an audition.
She says she doesn't want to do that.
Why would you force her to do something she doesn't like?
You know,
this is the first time I heard how she feels.
- To be honest, - It's understandable.
- I am shocked. - She can't do it.
If Yeh Eun wants to take a break from acting,
I can give her that.
- She doesn't want a short break. - That's not what she wants.
I wish you would relax.
We are seniors in life and in acting.
We are so frustrated because she needs a break.
Until when does she need a break? Until she wants to act again.
It's not until there is an audition.
If she has talent and interest in acting,
she will decide to take up acting again at the right time.
That's right.
- Tell him your sincere thoughts. - Go on.
Dad, you play with us at the amusement park...
when you have the time.
I like that, but I want to stop acting.
I love you.
- She can speak well. - That's right.
Do you think it's a worry? Let's start with Sang Hun.
- He is shocked. - This is a worry.
All right.
I think it's a worry.
I think it's a big worry, too.
- I also think it's a worry. - Of course.
In my opinion, it's Yeh Eun's dad who wants to be an actor.
He wants to live vicariously through Yeh Eun.
- That's right. - If you think she has talent,
take her to see a good movie once in a while.
- Show her a musical. - Show her a play.
- Show her those things. - They will inspire her.
Then have a delicious lunch together.
Don't bring up the topic of acting.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
Sir, please say a few words to your daughter.
Yeh Eun, I really didn't know...
you felt that way.
He didn't know.
From now on, I will...
Gosh, I am about to cry.
I will go to the amusement park with you and listen to you.
So that you can do what you want,
I will support you.
That's it.
- Good job. - That's amazing.
Let's see how many votes the story got. Show us.
"Please Give Up".
(Smiling)
It's over 100.
- That's good. - All right.
I will introduce the next worry, "Where Is His House?"
Hello, I am a housewife in my 30s with 3 children.
I'm sending you a letter...
because of my husband.
He sleeps somewhere else than...
our house where his lovely children and I stay.
(Does he have a drinking problem?)
"Honey. Honey."
"It's late. Why aren't you coming home?"
"I'm not your husband. I'm the security guard."
"I'm the security guard."
"Your husband is sleeping at the garbage collection area."
- The garbage collection area? - Yes.
"Please come quickly and take him home."
- He falls asleep when drunk. - Oh, no.
I'm worried that he falls asleep on the street,
in front of someone else's house, or next to a garbage bin.
How can I make him keep himself together?
Please help me.
(Please stop my husband.)
I like drinking too.
I've fallen asleep in a taxi...
or in the subway.
You pooped too, right?
(He exaggerates a story.)
- Is that true? - While I was walking up the stairs.
- Did you poop while walking up? - Really?
- I think it's a true story. - He pooped while walking up stairs.
- I used to... - Falling asleep would be better.
Why would he poop?
- I was in college. - That's hilarious.
I was living in Ilsan. From Jeongbalsan Station,
it was too close to take a bus to my house,
but it was too far to walk home.
I always chose to walk home as I was poor.
As I started to walk...
- It makes your bowel active. - That's right.
I was almost home, but I couldn't walk anymore.
- Your body gives you a warning. - Exactly.
I didn't know what to do.
- I tried to hold it in. - Right.
- You have to hold it in. - That's right.
I was sweating a lot. I finally got to the apartment building.
My house was on the fourth floor. I had to walk up there.
Because it was morning, some people were outside dusting their duvets.
I told myself to go up the stairs.
Did you poop in the morning?
- Yes, I drank all night long. - You drank all night long?
- On the 1st floor. - On the 1st floor?
- You didn't make it so far. - On the first floor.
- Were you wearing long pants? - Sorry?
- Were you wearing long pants? - Yes, I was.
That's a relief. My elder brother...
I was standing in front of the door.
- While my brother was running, - My goodness.
his poop dropped like Hansel and Gretel's breadcrumb.
Really? Is that true?
He was in fourth grade.
- He was a child. - That's understandable.
Let's meet our guest who is worried about her husband...
who sleeps anywhere when drunk. Please come out.
(Hong Seo Yeon)
(He sings along to the theme song.)
Does your husband really sleep anywhere when he's drunk?
Sleeping on the street is a norm for him.
I get a lot of calls from the police.
- Oh, gosh. - They tell me to pick him up.
Did you exaggerate the story when it happened only a few times?
- Or does he do that every day? - Every time he drinks.
- Every time he drinks? - Yes.
How often does he drink?
5 or 6 times per week.
- He drinks almost every day. - That's true.
Does he fall asleep whenever he drinks?
- Yes, he does. - I bet that's not the case.
He never drinks modestly.
- He drinks until he gets drunk. - How much does he drink?
- He drinks at least two bottles. - I see.
When he's in a good mood, he drinks up to five bottles.
- He doesn't limit his drinking. - He drinks as much as he wants.
Didn't you know that before getting married?
- Actually... - When did you find out about this?
I knew it even before getting married.
When we were dating,
my husband lived in his company apartment.
He went up to the 15th floor in the elevator.
As soon as the doors opened, he fell.
His head got stuck between the doors,
- and the doors kept moving. - Between the doors?
- The doors were closing? - Yes, but his head was stuck.
Someone told the security guard that the elevator was broken,
and the security guard went up to the 15th floor.
He thought my husband was dead because he was lying on his stomach.
- He thought it was an accident. - He must've been scared.
- He called an ambulance. - Yes.
He said someone was lying on the floor.
Fortunately, he was sleeping deeply because he was drunk.
They woke him up and sent him home.
- What happened after the marriage? - That's unbelievable.
It happened not long ago. My husband drank a lot...
at the work get-together.
He called me to say that he'd be home soon, but he didn't come.
I called him back, and someone else answered his phone.
I was told that my husband was sleeping...
in the garbage collection area in a different apartment unit.
He was sleeping in a lying position.
Someone put a styrofoam box under his head.
It read "Jeju Island's Specialty" on the box.
- Is that a real photo? - Jeju Island's Specialty.
- I think he's having a dream. - It must be a happy dream.
- I have a question. - Gosh.
Does he sleep in someone else's house too?
He sleeps in his friend's house.
He even slept in a stranger's house.
- In a stranger's house? - Yes. We used to live in Unit 409.
My husband pressed the 5th floor instead of the 4th.
He went to Unit 509, but he thought he was at Unit 409.
He knocked on the door loudly.
- He kept knocking on the door? - They must've been scared.
What happened next?
- He slept in front of that house. - In front of the house?
- He scared the people in there. - Exactly.
What did the people living in Unit 509 do?
Fortunately, they weren't home. They would've called the police...
- and said a weird person was there. - That's right.
What did your husband say when you told him that?
- He didn't remember that. - He didn't remember?
- He asked how he got home. - My goodness.
If they had the same door lock pass code, he would've entered.
- That's right. - He would've done that.
- If they had the same pass code. - That's right.
Let's meet her husband.
Where are you?
Hello.
Look at him.
- He looks find right now. - Exactly.
He doesn't look like he would do things like that.
- He looks diligent. - Yes.
Do you understand why your wife is worried?
- Yes, I do. - You must.
I do understand her, but it's difficult for me to refrain myself.
Why do you keep sleeping outside?
- I wonder that too. - It's not like I choose to do that.
While I'm enjoying drinking,
I talk to the others,
- but at some point, I lose it. - You pass out.
You should stop drinking before that.
- He can't do that. - It's hard to stop drinking.
- He sleeps at different places. - Still, these things have repeated.
- You should be more careful. - You don't even know...
why you're sleeping where you are.
- "I was just drinking." - That's right.
- It feels like teleportation. - I remember where I was before,
- but when I open my eyes, - You're in a different place.
- I see the sun rising. - That's dangerous.
I'm on the street or...
It can be very dangerous especially in winter.
- It's very dangerous. - Isn't it scary to lose memories?
You could freeze to death.
Don't you even worry whenever things like that happens?
Don't you realize that it's a problem?
- In winter, I could get frostbite. - That's right.
- Also, there are many crimes... - You could freeze to death.
- targeting drunk people. - You can treat frostbite.
- Of course. - I heard about it a lot.
- I've never gotten hurt. - My gosh.
We heard about how you had your head stuck in the elevator.
Do you remember what happened?
I clearly remember that I got in the elevator,
and pressed my floor and the close door button.
- You blacked out after that. - When I woke up,
I was sleeping in my house.
I thought nothing happened, but there was a big mess.
The paramedics came and took me home...
carrying me on a gurney.
- A gurney? - By the way,
you look very excited while talking about this.
- Exactly. - He kept smiling while saying it.
You should be ashamed.
When your husband gets drunk and falls asleep anywhere,
how do you feel?
- I worry about him so much. - Of course.
- I'm afraid he might get kidnapped. - You must be worried.
- Some people hit passersby. - Like happy slapping.
- There's human organ trafficking. - That's right.
What about on a snowy day?
He must know that it's dangerous.
He once went into an ATM booth.
- Because it was cold? - He must've felt cold.
- Gosh. Seriously. - He went in there instinctively.
(It looks like he didn't want to freeze to death.)
- He fell asleep in there. - I see.
Someone reported to the police because he passed out.
- I got a call from the police. - He went into an ATM.
I was asked if I was his family.
I was also asked to bring him home.
- I was pregnant at that time. - Were you almost due?
- Yes, my belly was this big. - Gosh.
I had to drag him home...
to the fourth floor.
(She took him to the 4th floor when she was almost due.)
- Your eldest daughter is also here. - Yes.
Hello.
I'm Moon Chae Won in 2nd grade at Gyeongpo Elementary School.
- Hello. - Welcome.
(It's nice to meet you.)
Chae Won, do you know why your mom came on the show?
- Yes. - Why did she come here?
It's because my dad drinks a lot.
- Do you think he drinks too much? - Yes, I do.
Have you ever tried to wake him up when he's drunk?
- My mom and I tried, but we failed. - What did you do?
My mom kicked him.
(Chae Won, please forget that.)
- What did you do? - What did you do, Chae Won?
I left him alone because I didn't want to see him getting mad.
- You didn't want to upset him? - I guess he throws a tantrum often.
Chae Won, have you ever seen your dad...
sleeping outside?
- I only saw his photos. - I see.
How does it make you feel?
I feel bad for him.
(I feel bad for him.)
Your husband has a serious problem.
Have you tried taking drastic measures?
I thought I should do something, so I tagged him along.
- To the meetings? - Yes.
- Like his secretary. - That's right.
- Because he might be in danger. - You drove him home too.
- Yes, I follow him around. - She's like a designated driver.
- What about your children? - I did it when I was pregnant.
After that, I held my baby in my arms following him around.
- You held your baby in your arms? - Yes.
I thought he would drink less if I go with him,
- Of course, he must worry. - but he drank even more than usual.
- Of course, he would. - He knew he was safe.
- He would drink more as it's safe. - "You're going to take me home."
How much did he drink?
There is a group of his friends.
3 or 4 people drank 20 bottles of soju.
- 4 of them drank 20 bottles? - Yes.
My husband would say, "Don't worry. My driver will take me home safely."
- He called me his driver. - He did?
Did you really say that calling your wife your driver?
Did you bring her with you when you drank?
When we drive to the place I go,
she can drive me home.
Also, she always comes to pick me up because she's worried...
something bad might happen to me.
I just jokingly said to my friends...
that my driver would take me home.
Before you got drunk,
you could've said you'd stop drinking...
because your wife was there.
Haven't you thought about it?
- No, I haven't. - He can't control himself.
- I always feel apologetic to her. - Why would you...
- Then, why... - I feel sorry.
However, once I start drinking, I enjoy drinking with my friends.
He gets too excited.
I keep drinking, and in the end...
When I wake up, I'm at home or somewhere else.
He must've refrained himself when you gave birth to your children.
He wasn't with me when I gave birth to my eldest child.
After giving birth, I had to stay in bed.
But his friends started calling all of a sudden.
"Is your baby born? Congratulations."
"We should celebrate over drinks." Then they showed up with diapers,
booze, and snacks.
- Your husband's friends? - Yes, they came to the hospital.
- The hospital? - They drank at the hospital?
- "Congratulations!" - Was the hospital okay with that?
- They must've done it secretly. - Yes, eating is okay, you know.
- That's right. - They just had to hide the booze...
to make sure that they wouldn't get caught.
- His friends must've felt bad. - Exactly.
When did this happen from your 1st to 3rd time giving birth?
With all of them. They did it every single time.
- With all of them? - Yes, congratulatory drinks.
- Who are those friends? - My goodness.
- That's very gutsy. - Guys, talk to him.
They say that everyone who loves to drink is a good person,
- but he's pretty bad. - I agree.
It looks like you have some explaining to do.
You and your friends had a drinking party when she was hospitalized.
- In her ward. - Why did you do that?
She had just given birth, so I couldn't go anywhere.
- Right. - Someone had to look after her.
Exactly. You had to look after her. Please go on.
It's not like I drank until I dropped.
At around 10pm,
she'd fall asleep anyway,
so I'd have a glass of drink before sleep.
If my friends happened to call me around that time, I told them...
to come by and drink with me. Other times, I just drank alone.
When your friend's wife gives birth,
do you visit them with other friends and have a drinking party there?
I've done that once. We drank in the ward.
Everything was fine while we were drinking, but we found out later...
- They must've had a big fight. - See? I knew it.
- He had to beg her. - Who would like that?
- It's not common sense. - You said you've done it just once,
but it has happened three times with her.
- Didn't you feel that she hated it? - Gosh, that's...
It's better than going out and getting myself in trouble...
(He sounds so confident.)
- What are you talking about? - You shouldn't drink, period.
You should've done neither. She had to recover from giving birth.
- With all three kids... - We love to drink too.
It looks like he thinks that most men would understand him.
- He's not aware at all. - Yes, that's the biggest problem.
But all of us boozehounds are totally against him right now.
- So far... - He doesn't even know what to say.
I also used to drink a lot back in the days.
I used to love partying so much, but I changed...
after my wife gave birth. When we started a family,
my wife said to me, "Hey, Sang Hun."
"You can't keep your old ways."
"You need to be more responsible and become the man of our family."
After I heard that, I quit drinking.
I quit smoking too.
I can understand everything,
- but your kids don't deserve that. - Exactly.
- That's really... - Have you thought about your kids?
- That's right. - You're their everything.
Think about how heartbroken they must be.
(Will this bring about a change in him?)
Let's meet his friends first.
Could you please introduce yourself and tell us how you know him?
We used to work together in Cheonan.
- His former co-worker. - Yes.
Do you understand why this stresses out his wife?
- Yes, I totally understand her. - Of course.
One day, I got a call from his number way past midnight.
I picked up, and it was a stranger. It wasn't him.
- I see. - I asked that man who he is.
He said that my friend here isn't waking up...
and that I should come pick him up.
So I had to carry him all the way to his room that night.
That must've been exhausting.
You're a guy. Was carrying him exhausting even for you?
- Gosh, very much so. - Of course.
- Your weight goes up. - It becomes a time and a half.
She did that when she was pregnant. How do you think she felt?
- Just the thought frustrates me. - That's almost impossible.
You guys have seen and experienced it.
Have you ever thought about trying to stop him?
- You shouldn't drink with him. - Have you tried to stop him?
We've tried to stop him many times,
but he gets annoyed and mad at us, then he drinks alone.
- He gets mad for stopping him. - Yes.
If he falls asleep, he gets mad at us when we try to wake him up.
When it gets bad, he even says all sorts of swear words.
Sometimes, he even punches us.
- Goodness. - That's wrong.
- That's a really bad habit. - It's okay for us as we're friends,
- but if strangers hear him, - Right.
- it might turn into a big fight. - Yes, that can happen.
I understand that you like to drink, but this is extreme.
These things don't happen to other people.
You might think it's fun, but those taxi drivers don't deserve that.
- The security guards too. - Exactly.
The same goes for police officers. The taxes that we pay...
should be used for those who are in seriously dangerous situations,
but so much of the money is going towards heavily drunk people.
It's being wasted on those who drink until they drop.
You've wasted so much of our money.
It sounds like your husband drinks a lot.
Is his liver okay?
Because she drinks, she knows that alcohol damages the liver.
My gosh, what a sharp question.
Last year, an ambulance was called because he passed out.
- I had to go to the emergency room. - While drinking?
- No, while working. - All of a sudden?
Yes. He drank a lot the day before.
I rushed to the emergency room wondering what happened to him.
When I got there, he was on a ventilator.
- His fingers were all... - Were they all curled up?
Yes, he was lying like that. I asked what was going on with him...
and was told that he has hyperpnea. I had never even heard of it before.
- He couldn't breathe properly. - He couldn't control his breathing.
Yes, exactly. That's why he fainted.
Did he keep drinking even after that incident?
He didn't drink for about a week,
so I didn't think I'd have to worry.
- Then he started drinking again. - Again.
When he fainted, the doctor told him...
to breathe with a plastic bag over his mouth if it happens again.
Whenever he feels it coming on, he goes, "I feel weird."
Then he asks for a plastic bag and breathes into it.
(He does that while drinking.)
- Then he drinks? - How stubborn.
Is air his drink accompaniment or what?
For about two days, I told myself that I can't go on like that.
But on the third day, I slowly started...
becoming numb to the problem and wanted to drink again.
Sir, something very serious can happen to you if you keep this up.
- It's... - The body is giving you signs.
Right? It might turn into something very serious. We're just worried.
- You've been patient so far, - Yes.
but you suddenly decided to send us your story.
Something must've happened for you to make that decision.
What prompted you?
As you know, our third child was born recently.
Because we're financially struggling,
he quit his job and opened a store.
- That's what he does now? - Yes, he started a month ago.
- What does he sell? - Meat.
- I see. - A barbecue restaurant.
He wants to go out, but he can't because he's the owner.
He has to slice the meat too. So he made his friends come over.
"Guys, come over."
- "Come to my store." - They must have a party there.
Exactly. They'll start with pork belly.
If his friends want to go elsewhere after that,
he says, "Hey, let's order food." Then they'd move to the next table.
- That's their second round. - I see.
- That's bar hopping for them. - They're like kids.
They probably order braised monkfish.
- Exactly. - How many tables are there?
Don't you think he has to clean up after eating and drinking?
- Yes, he's the owner. - Right?
But he falls asleep instead.
Goodness.
Then his friends giggle and record videos of him sleeping.
- Frankly, it makes me so angry. - Of course.
- It must be... - My youngest one is an infant.
I know that I shouldn't, but I bring my baby to the store when I work.
I lay him down when I work and pick him up when he cries.
- While you also breastfeed him? - So he doesn't do it alone?
- You have to help him? - Yes.
He just falls asleep. My kids would be crying as they want to go home.
My eldest daughter says we should just ditch him and go home...
because she's sleepy.
- Right, kids would do that. - I finally got him in the car.
I had to drive while holding my baby. I know that it's dangerous.
- While holding your baby? - I had no choice as he kept crying.
He kept pushing me, so I had to tell him to keep still.
Please think about this.
You own a barbecue place.
Who's going to clean up if you get drunk and pass out?
I didn't intend to just eat, drink, and fall asleep.
- We know. - Yes, we know that.
- It wasn't your intention. - You shouldn't have...
- drunk to begin with. - I got excited.
- You did. And you passed out? - Yes.
- Who cleaned up the mess? - My wife did.
Then who usually puts your kids to sleep?
My wife.
Who breastfeeds your baby?
My wife, of course.
Then who's responsible for taking you home?
My wife does it.
Gosh. "Who breastfeeds your baby?"
What if he said, "I do that"?
- Didn't you wonder? - That would've been a skit.
- That's a skit. - That's called a skit.
After we had our third child, he started helping me out...
by bathing our 2nd child who's 5 years old.
But he only does it when he's in a good mood.
- I must say... - The kid must look filthy...
when you're in a bad mood.
Only the second one would look grubby.
What other house chores does he do?
Does he vacuum the floor or wipe things for you?
No, he doesn't.
He tends to think that women have to take care of such things.
Gosh, what's this nonsense now?
(Groaning)
What's most important now? You can't keep going on like this, right?
That's right.
- Your patience is exhausted. - Yes.
Please tell your husband what you want from him.
I want him to drink only once or twice a week...
after the restaurant closes and help me with the cleanup.
I want him to come home sober even if he goes out with his friends.
- No drinking at the restaurant. - Exactly.
Those are your wife's wishes. What do you think?
I'll try to drink less,
- You should. - but I can't quit.
Only drink once or twice a week.
- Can you be more responsible? - If you can't promise,
you shouldn't drink more than once.
I won't go overboard.
Then how about we do this?
You said you won't go overboard. If you get out of control again...
and pass out on the street,
you should stay away from drinking altogether for a week.
And if it happens again, you'll quit drinking for another week.
- If you do that, it'll get better. - That's a good idea.
This shouldn't be hard. It's common sense.
You shouldn't sleep on the streets.
Everyone in the country must be watching this at the moment.
- Why would you sleep on the street? - Don't wake him up, everyone.
If you see this guy passed out, please do not wake him up.
- That's right. - If you wake him up...
- Totally. - Tae Gyun is so right.
We've received many stories about men who are obsessed with drinking,
but I can't wrap my head around this one.
- Yes, this is the worst. - I can't understand it.
- Me neither. - As a fellow alcohol lover,
I find this very insulting.
We want to be able to drink without feeling guilty.
(Not all drinkers are like him.)
Sir, will you be able to promise your wife?
Isn't it so simple? Just don't pass out and come home to sleep.
- That's all you need to do. - You can drink whenever you want.
(He should be okay with that.)
(He lets out a deep sigh.)
- Is it difficult? - Why is it difficult?
- I can't believe him. - He doesn't think...
- it's a problem. - Do you like sleeping outside?
- All right. - Do you?
You heard your wife and daughter.
How do you feel now?
I feel bad that I cause my wife so much trouble.
I'm too embarrassed to see my child.
That's the biggest reason.
Since you're feeling that way,
can you make a promise to them?
I'll try to drink less than before.
- I'll make an effort. - Also,
- if you sleep outside again, - If you sleep outside again,
- you'll stop drinking for a week. - you won't drink for a week.
- What do you say? - Why can't he...
- Why can't you say yes? - What's wrong with him?
- Why can't he say yes? - What's his problem?
Do you like sleeping on the street?
Is it that you want to...
sleep under a ginkgo tree that you failed last time?
Hang on a second. I have a question for his wife.
Is he a type of person who keeps his words...
- once he makes a promise? - Is he?
- Yes, he keeps his promises. - Is that so?
- I see. - That's why he's hesitating.
- He can't make an empty promise. - Everyone!
- That's a good thing. - Please look at him.
- He's a good man. - He's cool.
Promise her!
This is a good method. You want to fix it, right?
You want to fix your habit, don't you?
Do you not want to fix it?
- I do want to fix it. - You want to enjoy drinking,
go home in a good mood, and sleep in your bed, right?
We're trying to help you get rid of your habit.
- You should make a promise. - This way, you can fix it.
Please listen to them!
Will he make a promise?
We'll give you time to think.
Give it a thought while we collect the votes,
and tell us your decision at the end of the show.
Let's start with Sang Hun.
- He thinks it's a worry. - What's the reason?
- Isn't it obvious? - You don't even need to explain.
- It's obvious. - It's definitely a worry.
I think it's definitely a worry. It's a serious problem.
I also think it's a worry.
- You think it's a worry. - Yes.
- I completely agree with them. - She thinks it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Time's up. - Stop!
Now, please tell us your answer.
First of all, I will make an effort.
We get that you'll try.
- I think one week is too long. - Sorry?
I think one week is too long.
You can just avoid sleeping on the street!
All you need to do is not sleeping on the street.
Why do we have to convince you not to sleep on the street?
Exactly. This is ridiculous.
What's going on? This is absurd.
You should sleep at home.
- All right. Fine. - He's driving me crazy.
- How about 5 days? - 5 days.
(The last offer is 5 days!)
You have to accept this.
Be a man and give it a try.
You can just sleep at home.
- You're a man of your words. - Why do we have to convince him...
to sleep at home?
- A man never goes back on his word. - I can't understand this.
Tell us your answer.
I'm going to go for a drink after this!
Gosh.
- I'm meeting my old friends. - Oh, gosh.
- I'll try. - No!
- I won't drink for five days. - You'll try...
- For five days? - Are you accepting this offer?
- Deal. - Great.
(He accepted the offer.)
- You heard your wife. - Tell her how you feel.
Say a word to her.
You take care of the whole family, not just me.
I'm always grateful for you.
I realized...
that I speak thoughtlessly.
I'm sorry. I'll be nicer to you.
- I love you. - He can do it.
You can do it!
- You can do it! - You can do it!
- You can pull through. - Of course.
Let's see how many votes she got.
- Will it be over 100? - "Where Is His House?"
("Please Give Up" is the current winner with 158 votes.)
She got 166 votes.
- That's a lot of votes. - That's right.
That's a lot of votes.
"Where Is His House?" is...
the winner of this week!
Congratulations!
("Energetic" by Wanna One)
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